It takes time and effort to remove the barriers that allow your beautiful light to shine. But as you dive deeper and deeper into yourself, and change yourself, you will no longer have the drive to change others and you won't feel victimized anymore. You will become an empowered and conscious creator of your life experience. In short, if you want outside change, you must first change the map of reality you have on the inside. Otherwise nothing will change.
Nothing is more natural than the urge to be held and comforted by someone who understands our suffering. Whatever the painful situation (a relationship breakup, medical scare, financial disaster, the death of a loved one) we want to turn toward someone who will hold us and let us cry in loving arms.
Learning how to forgive is complex, and it can’t happen overnight. However, it is possible, and you’ll be so much better off when you succeed. Studies on people who practice forgiveness and positive thinking techniques indicate an overall reduction in the risk of illness. In this context, “forgiveness” refers to deciding that you are willing to let go of feelings of resentment and anger towards another person, abandoning the urge for revenge and instead, trying to approach life with a clean slate.